Suffering people often need others to have hope and faith for them. Admonitions to hope or trust often result in despair; if the sufferers were able, they would do so. It is often helpful to say, "I know you struggle to have hope right now. I will have hope for you." ~ Diane Langberg, PhD

Lean On My Hope

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Some hearts understand each other, even in silence. ~ Yasmine Mogahed

Unspoken Understanding

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How We Get Our Needs Met

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Most people think that need meeting happens all in the present tense. However, the psychology of feeling that your needs are met in the present involves the past, the present and the future. When we search around in our heads to “see” if we are okay, our minds look for memories from the past that […]

When Elijah battled with depression, God didn't send an angel to preach to him, tell him to have more faith, or rebuke him for feeling bad for so long. He sent an angel to comfort him. God understands trauma states. He knows we need presence and relationship. ~ Holly Nelson

Elijah and Depression

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Because we don't openly talk about grief, in this culture, we have a flawed view of what it's really like. Because we don't openly talk about grief, we don't know what's "normal". We don't know how to care for ourselves, or others. ~ Megan Devine

Western Culture and Grief

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The blood of our brothers and sisters is crying out to God. We desecrate the name of the Lord, and bring great damage to His well-loved creatures, when we fail to bend down, listen to, tend to, and carry His image-bearers. ~ Diane Langberg, PhD

Their Blood Cries Out

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To That Doctor – A Poem

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~~ to the “man” who didn’t see the woman sitting in front of him at the Dr’s office today. I cried in your office today. You didn’t hand me a tissue. You leaned towards me. Your face something between mocking and frustration. Your voice rose. You would be heard. Your points taken. Your solutions accepted […]