You Don’t Have To Fake It Anymore
I know what it feels like to wear a mask in order to meet the expectations of everyone except yourself. I was a master of avoidance, until I no longer could.
Ted V
MY PERSONAL MESSAGE TO YOU
It’s me you’re talking to. It’s safe to take off the mask.
If you have been faking it until you made it, only you never “made it”, and you crashed into the wall instead, you are in good company. Our culture doesn’t promote authenticity.
Today, I’d like to talk to the person who is feeling:
- anxious and depressed
- full of rage and blame and resentment
- full of unexpressed grief
Friend, it’s exhausting as hell to suppress your insecurities, your rage at not getting your needs met, your grief over lost love and missing parents. Around here, your authenticity is your calling card. Vulnerability is your #1 achievement. I know it’s hard for men to do this. It wasn’t exemplified by Baby Boomer fathers, or their fathers.
Today, you can change that generational message. Around here you get to put down societal pressure, circumvent cultural norms, and just be yourself. You get to hang with people who get you, and understand that your internal rescue is your #1 career goal.
Thriving Member of our Restorative Community, Ted V
Our mission is to give voice to trauma survivors and to support them on their healing journey.
AND to educate family members, friends & churches how to:
- walk with / be allies
- practice active listening
- create safe connection that heals relational trauma
- create safe organizational communities that promote inclusion and healing
- hold sacred space for processing difficult emotions in community rather than in isolation
- create organizational programs that provide practical support for those that are doing the very hard work of trauma recovery (and their loved ones)
Survivor to Thriver Resources
We provide free educational resources, newsletter subscription, affordable workshops and courses, peer mentoring groups, trauma coaching, and survivor support groups. The goal is:
- to give voice to the survivor (because secrets kill and silence is deadly)
- to inform and educate about trauma (because knowledge is power)
- to inform survivors about various therapy modalities & how to interview prospective therapists
- to explore their love language and their support language
- to explore and encourage self-advocacy
- to explore and encourage self-care
- to provide healing through safe community and connection
Family and Friends Program
We provide free educational resources, newsletter subscription, affordable workshops and courses, coaching, and a friends & family support group. The goal of these services is to advocate for the survivor, to inform and educate friends & family concerning what it’s like to experience trauma, and its lingering effects, and to inform concerning the best ways to support their beloved survivor:
- through active listening
- through non-violent communication
- through co-regulation of the nervous system
- through knowing the love language and the support language of their loved one
- with practical ways to serve and support the healing process
- through their own self-care practice
The Good Samaritan Church Program
We provide free educational resources, newsletter subscription, on-site workshops, paid courses, and ministerial support groups. The goal of this program is to advocate for the survivor, to inform and educate decision makers, and ministerial staff, in the best ways to support trauma survivors, so that the local church can exemplify the heart of The Good Samaritan:
- through intentional organizational changes
- through intentional safe sanctuary policies and practices
- through intentional education
- through intentional inclusion
- through the adoption of programs geared towards survivor healing
- through active listening
- through non-violent communication
- through practical ministry of burden-bearing (for survivors & their families)
- through their own self-care practice
The PRIVILEGE OF A LIFETIME IS TO BECOME WHO YOU ARE.
Carl Jung